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doesn't want to make his confirmation

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14/09/2011 15:15 - Confirmation
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oh yeah it was written 3 years ago haha sure problem solved by now!!!!!



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18/09/2009 20:44 - Confirmation
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I´ve seen "First Holy Communion" children and given a card. However, I´ve never had a neighbour "confirmation". I guess that´s because firstly the confirmation in on during the week and secondly the child in question doesn´t want to be knocking at doors looking for "an envelope".



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14/01/2007 19:16 - Confirmation
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don´t envy you this one paula. Know what you mean about what´s the point if the ceremony doesn´t mean anything to him. However if you have decided to bring him up RC then I think you should follow it through until he is sixteen . Let him know now that when he is sixteen he can decide himself whether he wants to continue as a practising catholic or not.



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20/09/2009 17:31 - Confirmation
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I think you should be very pleased that your son doesn´t wish to be confirmed - basically I think it means that he´s his own way of thinking and not following the crowd. He´s showing signs of thinking for himself and not being lead by peer pressure. My son is making his confirmation next year but if he decides he doesn´t wish to I won´t be trying to sway his opinion one way or the other.



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14/09/2011 15:13 - Confirmation
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He has a mind of his own and if he is telling you he doesnt believe in God you should respect that. I think children in Ireland in general want to do confirmation to get the party and money in most cases. Its nice to hear of child standing up for what he believes in and not being briebed with money or doing it to please his parents. You should in fact be very proud of him for knowing his own mind!!!





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15/02/2007 22:28 - Confirmation
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of course there´s no law saying that you have to make confirmation at a certain age. If you want to let him have a say in his own decisions, then perhaps you could point out that he can always make his confirmation at a later age when he is more comfortable with his faith.



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16/10/2009 07:53 - Confirmation
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Just noticed that Paula first posted nearly three years ago. It would be interesting to hear what happened and whether or not her son was confirmed in the end?



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14/10/2009 22:22 - Confirmation
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I´am assuming ur son is not going to be attending a Roman catholic school .. If not he has plenty of time to make his confirmation at a later stage...



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11/01/2007 21:20 - Confirmation
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my son feels quite strongly that he doesn´t want to make his confirmation. He rarely goes to mass and say he doesn´t really believe in God. We have tried to bring him up as a roman catholic and I would be disappointed if he didn´t make his confirmation. That said ,is there any point in forcing him to go through with the ceremony if it doesn´t mean anything to him. Help!



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19/01/2007 17:33 - Confirmation
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Does he understand the full implication of not making his confirmation?
Please explain to him that by rejecting Confirmation he cannot be a Godparent, he may have difficulties if he wants to get married in the Church etc. There are a number of implications involved that will show up in later life.
Please discuss this with a Priest and then explain the full implications with your son. Don´t just let him not get confirmed simply because he doesn´t want it.
Once he is fully informed and you are happy to let him make his own life decisions at 12 (!) then so be it.
BTW, If he didn´t wanna bathe would you let him get stinky? If he didn´t wanna eat would you let him starve? So it is with things supernatural. Just because we can´t see whats happening doesn´t mean nothing is happening.



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19/09/2009 22:16 - Confirmation
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If he feels very strongly, it´s a tough one. All you can do is to continue to encourage him, in as positive a manner as possible.




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