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19/06/2011 18:37 - Teenage Issues
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If you are allowing your child to access Bebo, there are privacy settings so do take advantage of them. As with any online site there is a risk of online bullying but using the privacy settings will ensure only your childs friends can contact/see his profile. I´m sure you have had many a discussion in relation to online safety. You are right to be cautious, Bebo is one of the better sites for teenagers.



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24/06/2007 21:39 - Teenage Issues
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Hi I just had to reply to this subject.My sister set up her own site to "spy" on her kids on bebo.They know she has a site and the agreement was that they had to add her as a friend which gives her the right to view their sites as some profiles can be private meaning only direct friends can view them.With regards to the photographs there is the option of having them on private too even if the page isn´t on private which means only your direct friends can view them so there´s no need to worry about the whole site viewing them.Anyway since she set up her own profile she´s got in touch with old friends from school etc because you can join your school and put in the year you left.She also uses it to keep in touch with family in other countries who also set up sites to keep an eye on what their kids are up to.She also introduced me to it.So its not only for teenagers and kids.Us adults can have fun with it too!!



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17/04/2007 09:18 - Teenage Issues
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Hi...
with ref to the whole Bebo issue....I have 2 daughters, 15 and 20. It can be fairly harmless but do monitor the use very carefully. I have seen some pages that make your hair curl. An excellent tip is to log in and just take a look at various pages of teens..you´ll get the idea of what goes on pretty quickly!
When kids get further into teenage yrs they tend to really push boundaries and the content of their pages gets increasingly risky. Have an agreement with your child that you will have the password and will control the security of their page. Make it crystal clear you are in charge of the page and who can access it..it sounds very obvious, but I know of many situations where bullying and unsuitable communications were occuring. Also, kids tend to forget that once pics are up there, the whole planet has access to them.
I am, for the record, 40 and very easy going, but life these days is just SO different..there are tons of threats there. Let them at it, but keep a very tight reign on it. Sorry for sounding so morbid but I hate to see kids suffer when something can be just honest to God fun!



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10/10/2006 18:06 - Teenage Issues
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i´ve got a 13 year old who was addicted to Bebo at the start but like everything it´s totally died off now. I keep an eye on the site (check out the history pages in your web browser) and you can see what´s going on the pages. I´ve told her that I check the pages and to be quite honest i´ve not yet found anything other than friendly flirting and chit chat. remember too, if our parents knew half of what we were up to, we´d still be grounded!!!!!!!!!



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03/09/2006 16:12 - Teenage Issues
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My fourteen year old son has asked me if he can log onto Bebo. I don´t allow unsupervised access to the internet. I really don´t know very much about this Bebo site. Is it ok? What is other parents experience? Should I let him?



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11/01/2010 18:37 - Teenage Issues
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you know I dont mean to criticise but,logging on to a chat room for the purpose of reading messags between your children and your childrens friends is a little extreme.I hpe your children are aware that you are paying such carful attention to their sites.



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25/06/2007 00:04 - Teenage Issues
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It´s definitely worth having a good look at Bebo to see what it´s all about, I´ve shown a few parents how to use it as they were worried about their teens using it and when they had a chance to check it out they were ok about it. Much as we might want to, we can´t protect them all the time, if your child has ever had their picture taken by one of their friends then chances are it´s on somebodys Bebo page.

I think it´s better to ask the teens to show you their page and to see what their friends are talking about instead of banning it completely, because if they really want to use it they most likely will, either in a friends house or an internet cafe because Bebo is being used by most teens whether we like it or not.

We can´t be around listening to what our children and their friends are talking about all the time so at least by keeping an eye on Bebo we get to learn more about what´s really going on with them and teach them how to handle different situations like people writing nasty things about others or why they should be careful about how they pose for photos. My children are able to keep in regular contact with their cousins both abroad and around the country and they really enjoy that.



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02/02/2011 14:59 - Teenage Issues
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I think it is pretty harmless - however, just be aware that there has been some cases of online bullying through social networking sites.

I agree with the poster who said that logging in to spy on your children is going to the extreme. Before all this internet stuff, our parents weren´t there listening into every private conversation with friends. It´s the same thing now, just online.



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07/09/2006 19:34 - Teenage Issues
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Thanks for your advice on Bebo. I will spend some time investigating the site. Like you said its here to stay and my son keeps telling me that all his friends are allowed and that they use it to keep in contact with one another. I was just a bit concerned as I had heard that some kids used it to write nasty things about other kids, but hopefully that is the exception and most kids just use it to keep in touch with one another. Thanks again. I wont panic yet!

Jane



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24/02/2010 11:40 - Teenage Issues
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Irrespective of what your intentions when spying on pupils bebo pages you´re still putting yourself in a risky position of having the finger of suspicion pointed at you so to eliminate such a risk I think teachers should leave well alone and if a parent raises such a suggestion then refer them elsewhere. Leave the parenting to the parents and cover your ass at all times.

It seems fairly common for teachers to spy on their pupils and you only need to hear of one less than honourable case to raise suspicions about all cases.

You only have to see how one particular american school took it a step further and looks like they´re about to face major lawsuits.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1252234/U-S-school-child-porn-probe-revealed-laptops-used-spy-pupils-home.html





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28/10/2009 11:54 - Teenage Issues
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twinklestar why are you monitoring your pupils on Bebo?

The principal of my childrens primary school not only snooped on pupils, mainly 6th class and used to print off their bebo pages. I think any teacher doing something like that are leaving themselves wide open to accusations along the lines of grooming for sinister purposes and teachers snooping on their pupils would also fall into the catagory of those that give such sites a bad name.

Even though children are meant to be 13 years old to join a lot of younger children still manage to register by putting a younger age. I can only think of sinister reasons why a teacher would snoop on their pupils pages.



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11/11/2009 10:16 - Teenage Issues
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Hi Deisemum

Well its not for sinister reasons and I am highly insluted that you would even think that.

We had a Parent Teacher on the Bebo isssue and it was suggested by a parent that doesnt have a good knowlege of the internent, and we were asked if we could do this and the condition that the parents have on allowing the children use the site is they have to accept the teachers in the school as friends.

Since the last post we have set up a parent course on teaching the parents on how to operate the social networking sites which has proved extremly popular.

I am sorry that you dont trust the Principal of the school that you send your children too.

I do not have any sinister reasons for monitoring the children in my class....



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07/09/2006 17:33 - Teenage Issues
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I agree with JC, Bebo is here to stay do there´s no point in banning it. We restrict time on it and its not allowed now during school week.



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29/11/2011 15:57 - Teenage Issues
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Welcome to the social networking phase...I´m not sure if it ever stops...But as far as the sites go, Bebo seems ok.
I agree with the post above, that you should have a look with your child at the privacy settings that it offers.
I really disagree with surreptitiously creating an account and "spying" on your children´s online antics though. I think it´s far better to do it openly. I like the idea that they can have an account, as long as they add you as a friend. There would lead to much greater mutual respect than going behind their back.



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09/08/2007 11:05 - Teenage Issues
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Just wanted to agree with this lady, a fellow teacher and i have set up bebo sites to monitor our children and also the children in our classes and this has proved to be very helpful in monitoring both.

Also we have met up with our old school friends so i think bebo is better than some of the bad publicty it has been recieving.

Hope it goes well for you too.
Regards




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04/09/2006 21:06 - Teenage Issues
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Hi Jane,

I´ve got a similar situation - 2 kids (13, 15) on Bebo. Its a brilliant site for kids, great in the hands of kids with reasonable cop-on, but like everything, can be a source of trouble. If you got the time let him on, but keep an eye on him and get to know the site yourself - you need time to monitor it. We have to move with the times - bebo and similar are here to stay! Check out this site for some useful ´official´ information >> http://www.ncte.ie/InternetSafety/





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